Diffidence. Yuav ua li cas kov yeej nws?

Muaj coob tus neeg niaj hnub no muaj ib qho teeb meem thaum lawv yuav tsis qhia lawv tus kheej. Vim li no, lawv yuav tsis mus kawm ntawv qib siab los yog tau txais ib yam kev ua hauj lwm - thiab tag nrho vim hais tias lawv xav tias ib tug tsis muaj kev cog qoob loo. Lawv yeej ib txwm xav hais tias lawv yeej yuav tau txais lwm tsis ua hauj lwm, hais tias lawv yuav raug tsis kam lees vim hais tias lawv tw zoo thiab muaj zog. Yog li, tiamsis lawv tsis sib ntaus sib tua thiab kev swb, tsis ua lub slightest kauj ruam mus rau nws tus npau suav. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, nyob rau hauv psychology muaj tsis muaj ib yam raws li ib tug "kev cog qoob loo" los yog "tsis muaj kev cog qoob loo", tus txiv neej nws tus kheej txo nws hwj stamp. Nws tag nrho cov nyob rau txoj kev ntseeg nyob rau hauv koj tus kheej, Yog hais tias koj xav hais tias koj yog tag nrho cov zoo, ces koj muaj ib tug zoo thiab siab nws tus kheej-kheej. Txawm li cas los, muaj cov neeg uas yog txaj muag rau lawv tus kheej, lawv cov tswv yim, kev xav thiab cwj pwm, ntsig txog, nws tus kheej-tsis ntseeg lawv paub.

Lub cim ntawm txhua tus neeg sib txawv, yog li ib co ntawm cov wrestlers lub neej thiab ntseeg tau hais tias tag nrho yog tau mus cuag, thaum lwm tus neeg yog ntshai kom txawm ib tug me me kauj ruam mus rau nws tus npau suav, yog li lawv feem ntau tsis cuag dab tsi. Cov muaj feem nyob rau hauv lub neej no, tag nrho cov yog muaj sib npaug, tab sis ib tug neeg muaj peev xwm tiv thaiv lawv txoj cai nyob rau ntawm lub chaw ua hauj lwm, txawm yog nws tej zaum tsis paub hais tias txoj cai. Thiab lwm yam yuav nqa tawm tag nrho cov kev pab raws qib uas nws tau muab rau cov thawj ntawm cov thiab lwm ib nrab ntawm lug txhawb cov miv. Yog li ntawd koj yuav tsum to taub hais tias kev cog qoob loo thiab self-doubt ua si ib qho tseem ceeb luag hauj lwm thoob plaws hauv lub neej. Thiab lub ntxov koj yuav pib hloov tej yeeb yam zoo nyob rau hauv lawv tus kheej, feem ntau qhia koj tus kheej tias koj muaj peev xwm thiab koj yeej ua tau, tus ceev koj yuav tau mus ua tej yam kev pab them nqi.

Yog vim li cas muaj ntau yam yuav xav li cas los kov yeej nws tus kheej-tsis ntseeg. Ib txhia yog xa mus rau cov psychologists thiab yeej kim heev kev kho mob; Lwm yam kev hloov nyob rau hauv tus ntawm tej yam tseem ceeb nyob rau hauv lawv lub neej. Piv txwv li, ib tug coj thiab insecure nws xav tias thaum kawg pom lawv zoo siab - kom nws yuav ntau kaj siab lug thiab kev ywj siab los ntawm lwm tus txoj kev xav thiab views.

Muaj cov neeg uas yog tawm tsam nrog uncertainty thoob plaws lub neej. Qhov twg lawv ua tau ib yam dab tsi, lawv yuav hais rau koj tus kheej, "Kuv zoo," tab sis thaum lawv yog overtaken los ntawm ib co teeb meem, lawv txhawb lawv tus kheej, lawv tag nrho cov phem thiab muab li. Nws yog zoo dua mus nrhiav kev pab los sis tau nyeem pab tau cov phau ntawv rau cov kawm. Nyob rau hauv Internet muaj ntau ntau yam ntaub ntawv, uas txig piav qhov sib txawv tus neeg mob, thiab koj yuav nrhiav tau ib co pab tau tswv yim yuav ua li cas kom tshem tau ntawm nws tus kheej-tsis ntseeg.

Ntawm no yog tej yam yooj yim raws li kev cai rau cov neeg uas tsis paub yuav ua li cas kov yeej nws tus kheej-tsis ntseeg:

- feem ntau mloog mus rau ib tug zoo thiab qab ntxiag suab paj nruag. Nws yuav pab koj mus yeej ib txwm ciali mus thiab tsis nco qab txog lawv cov teeb meem. Thaum koj xav tias zoo thiab koj tsis muaj dab tsi bothers neeg tam sim ntawd pom nws thiab yuav attracted rau koj. Tom qab tag nrho, npaum li cas nicer mus tham nrog ib tug gay thiab zoo siab tus neeg tshaj nrog ib tug bore leej twg xav tias nws muaj tsis muaj dab tsi.

- xav seb ib tug hobby thiab muab nws tag nrho nws lub sij hawm spare. Yog hais tias koj sau paj huam los yog composing music, luam tawm koj tsim yaam tshab rau zaub (yuav ua tau anonymous). Saib dab tsi lwm tus neeg hais txog koj cov hauj lwm, nws yuav pab kom ntseeg tau tias nyob rau hauv lawv tus kheej. Cia li tsis nco qab tias nyob rau hauv tag nrho cov tsis haum txhua leej txhua tus!

- luag ntxhi thiab ua zoo deeds. Qhov no yuam nej kom ntseeg tau hais tias koj tsim nyog rau ib tug neeg nyob rau hauv lub ntiaj teb no uas koj hlub, koj vam rau. Tom qab tag nrho, yog koj pab tau ib tug neeg txawv, koj cia li tau zoo dua thiab koj xav mus kawm txog ib yam dab tsi thiab tau ntsib. Qhov ntawd yog yuav ua li cas koj tus neeg yuav tau rub, Yog hais tias koj ua kinder thiab kev lom zem ntau.

Ib qho tseem ceeb piece ntawm tswv yim: tsis tham txog lawv tej teeb meem rau sawv daws. Cov neeg no sib txawv: ib co cia li mloog, tab sis lwm tus tseem zoo siab. Muaj ob peb uas muaj peev xwm tiag tiag pab tau koj. Sim qhia tsuas muaj cov neeg uas yog tiag tiag ze rau koj thiab ib tug neeg uas koj ntseeg tau 100%. Tsuas yog cov neeg zoo li yuav nrhiav tau cov lus, koj yuav tsum tau pab txhawb thiab kom paub tseeb tias txhua yam yuav zoo.