Nws yog nyob rau hauv lub fairy tales nws fights tus zaj thiab throws nws ko taw hauv tag nrho lub nceeg vaj. Lub romantic films tag nrho xaus dawb daim ntaub thaiv thiab ib tug ceremony nyob rau hauv uas ib tug lush vaj. Tab sis lub neej yog npaum li cas feem ntau tshwm sim rau lo lus nug: "Yog vim li cas txiv neej tsis xav tau sib yuav?". "Tom qab tag nrho, kuv ntse, thiab zoo nkauj, thiab kuv hlub cov me nyuam ... thiab tseem paub yuav ua li cas ua noj, ua ntxhua khaub ncaws, saib football (khij)" ... Tab sis nws prefers bachelor raws li txoj cai, txawm enjoyed Umino koj noj su thiab hnav ironed nyob rau hauv thaum sawv ntxov koj lub tsho. Nws tsis nrhiav los txiav koj nrog kab tshoob ncuav mog qab zib thiab koj hnav lub coveted lub nplhaib. Nws tsis xav kom yuav tsum tau "ringed".
Tab sis li nyob ruaj khov uas stereotype ntawm ib tug zoo siab lub neej nyob rau hauv peb lub paj hlwb: tus txiv, tus poj niam thiab ob tug luag cov me nyuam, lub tsev, lub vaj ... thiab nws zoo li rau peb hais tias tsis muaj ib tug stamp nyob rau hauv phau passport yog tag nrho "rau ib txhia tsis yog." Peb yuam kev los ntawm lub forums thiab cov phooj ywg txom lo lus nug: "Yog vim li cas txiv neej tsis xav kom tau sib yuav?" Thiab wb sim mus saib nyob rau qhov teeb meem no los ntawm nws taw tes ntawm view. Uas yuav muab nws lub neej ntawm dab tsi nws yuav tsis tau, yog ib tug bachelor? Ua noj hauv tsev? Nws yooj yim mus ntiav thiab feem ntau ntawm cov poj niam thiab cov ua li ntawd, ib qho nyuaj rau saib xyuas ntawm lawv cov lovers, tus khub, cov neeg koom tes, hoping mus nplij nws lub siab thiab tu khi lawv rau nws tus kheej. Leej niam ntawm nws cov me nyuam? Tab sis yuav tsim lawv stamp nyob rau hauv phau passport yog tsis xav tau, thiab txawm ntau li ntawd - yuav ua rau muaj teeb meem yog hais tias tus ob peb ncaim. Hluas nkauj, sov lub txaj? Tab sis nws yog zoo dua lub npe hu hais tias sib yuav kev hlub yog fleeting, thiab intimacy nrog nws tus poj niam rau ntau yuav luag incestuous. Raws li txoj cai? Ntawm no thiab ntawm tag nrho cov nws tsis yog li ntawd yooj yim. Nws yuav siv los yuav koj yuav ua lwm yam kev los ntawm nws tus poj niam nrog ib tug noble lub npe, kom tau txais nws tus nqi taub hau, tau tus tsim nyog paub. Tam sim no tej yam uas yog tsis yog li ntawd yooj yim. Thiab wondering vim li cas tus txiv neej tsis xav yuav, peb to taub hais tias nws yog li ntawd ntau npaum li cas yooj yim: nws yog kiag li tswj qhov teeb meem no, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog yog hais tias nws paub hais tias koj xav tau sib yuav. Tom qab tag nrho, thaum koj tos rau nws txog tej lus, koj yuav npaj mus ua ntau npaum li cas rau lub hom phiaj ntawm nws. Thiab tau raws li siab xav, koj yuav tau hloov qhov teeb meem no. Tej zaum nws yog hais tias nws yog muaj kev ntshai? Nws tsis xav kom "viav vias txoj cai" rau nws tshwm sim los rau vaj tse kev sib raug zoo, thiab nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv ntawm kev sib nrauj yuav tau muab lawv tej khoom. Nws xav kom txiav txim siab rau qhov twg mus nyob rau hauv lub caij so, thiab seb nws yog tsim nyog los hloov kev ua hauj lwm, qhov chaw uas nyob thiab nrog leej twg kom tau raws li.
Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej tsis xav kom tau sib yuav, nws tsis txhais hais tias nws tsis nyiam nws tus hluas nkauj. Cia li tejzaum txuam lub tswv yim ntawm mus tas li xyuas uas lawv yog tsis npaj rau lub neej nrog rau nws. Nws yog lub npe hu fact tias lub neej nrog ib tug neeg nyob rau hauv ib lub ru tsev - tsis yog tsuas yog kev lom zem, tab sis kuj yog ib tug lossis loj lub luag hauj lwm. Qhov no kev tshawb fawb rau ib tug nruab nrab. Ib tug yuav tsis txiav txim uas cov poj niam yuav txiv neej, thiab yog dab tsi tsis. Peb stereotypes ua tus poj niam muaj ib lub caij nyoog los yog txho nas, mloog lus, npaj txhij mus ua hauj lwm, los yog bitch, vamp, yuam kom ua rau nws siab nyiam. Txawm li cas los, tag nrho yog tsis raws li schematic nyob rau hauv lub neej. Thiab sim kom to taub yog vim li cas ib tug txiv neej tsis xav mus yuav, tsis txhob xav hais tias nws tsis xav kom mess nrog tus poj niam no yog hais tias nws yog nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev "tsis tuav." Txhua yam yog ntau npaum li cas prosaic. Nws sib yuav thaum yuav no puas npaj. Los yog thaum muaj ib lub hom phiaj yuav tsum tau muaj tus txheej xwm ntawm ib tsev neeg tus txiv neej. Universal tshuaj raws li mus yuav nws tus hlub, yog tsis thiab tsis tau. Thiab rau cov poj niam nkawv tus cwj pwm yuav ua tau ib zaj lus zoo. Tsis txhob xav tau muaj txij nkawm, tsis yog npaj txhij mus rau noj lub luag hauj lwm - xav hais tias, tab sis yog vim li cas yuav koj khi koj lub neej nrog xws li ib tug neeg?