Kuv ntxub lawv cov me nyuam. Yuav ua li cas ua neej nyob nrog nws thiab yuav ua li cas?

Peb yog siv los next nyob rau hauv lawv lub neej nyob rau ib tug yeeb yuj commercials. Zoo siab tsev neeg, cov niam tsev txiv, playful, tab sis mloog lus me nyuam. Tus Neeg Mob niam calmly piav rau cov tub thiab cov ntxhais yuav ua li cas coj. Thiab, Thaj, tus xav li cas "kuv ntxub lawv cov me nyuam," nws yuav tsis txawm tuaj mus rau lub siab "tiag tiag cov niam txiv." Thiab nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb qhov no yog qhov tiag tiag kev xav, peb yuav tshem lawv mus rau lub xeem, tsis muaj leeg lawv txawm mus rau lawv tus kheej. "Kuv ntxub lawv cov me nyuam - tej zaum xav tias xav ua kom tau poj niam - thiab nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, tsis muaj tsiaj yuav tsis ua mob, thiab cov xeeb ntxwv yuav yeej ib txwm tiv thaiv nws. Yuav ua li cas yuav koj xav tias nws? Yog hais tias kuv xav li ntawd, ces kuv tsis pom qhov twg tsis zoo raws li ib tug niam." Nruj taboo - nrog tag nrho peb cov qhib thiab dawb lub zoo li nws - yog tseem superimposed nyob rau daim duab ntawm tsev neeg sib raug zoo. Txawm li cas los, psychologists hais tias: tsis muaj ib leej niam, uas tsawg kawg yog ib zaug tsis muaj kev xws txoj kev xav ntawm nws tus me nyuam.

Yog vim li cas yog no mas thiab seb nws yog tsim nyog los hais rau qhov no? Peb pib nrog lub fact tias nyob rau hauv cov pej xeem lub tswv yim los ntawm lub "leej niam tiag tiag" yuav tsum tau tas li txi. Nws yog ntseeg hais tias nws yog yuam ua hauj lwm tsis tau tsuas yog kom tau raws li tag nrho cov kev xav tau thiab whims ntawm nws tus me nyuam, tab sis nyob rau tib lub sij hawm pab rau cov tsev neeg, ua hauj lwm, saib zoo thiab muaj kev zoo siab. Ib leej niam feem ntau tsis tau txaus pw tsaug zog, nyob nyob rau hauv qhov kev nyuaj siab, overloaded nrog lub luag hauj lwm, sab sab lub cev. Thiab tsis tau nyob rau txhua txhua kauj ruam muaj teeb meem nrog kev kawm ntawv: cov pog "ua tib zoo" xav tias nws tsis, cov neeg zej zog, lub co-neeg ua hauj lwm thiab koj tus kheej cov xeeb ntxwv yog tsis xav nyob rau hauv mus rau "haum" nws views on yuav ua li cas nws yuav tsum tau. Tus thawj thought uas los ntawm tus niam thiab tus scares nws - "Kuv ntxub lawv cov me nyuam." Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, feem ntau rooj plaub nyob rau hauv ib tug heev txawv. Nws tsis yog kev ntxub, yog hais tias peb tsom xam cov kev txiav txim zoo ntawm ib tug los ze zog. Cov niam tsis xav ua phem rau lawv cov me nyuam. Tab sis, thaum ib tug lub sij hawm ntawd nws nkawd hais tias yog hais tias lawv "zoo" los sis raug rau lwm yam - yuav tau evaporated los yog tau lawm thiab nws cov teeb meem. Nws muaj peev xwm mus pw tsaug zog, yuav ua li cas nws xav mus so kom txaus, mus zaum nrog nws tus phooj ywg. Kuv yuav tau ib yam dab tsi rau lawv tus kheej thiab tsis yog rau tus puas xav tau me nyuam uas "tsis tau txaus."

Yog hais tias koj yog mus xyuas ntau zaus xav tias, "Kuv ntxub koj tus me nyuam" yuav ua li cas, uas tig mus? Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov nws siab nqig. Koj txoj kev xav yog tsis yog ib tug perversion. Nws yog koj lub tshuaj tiv thaiv rau kev nyuaj siab. Yog hais tias koj tab tom nrhiav kev pab thiab kev teb cov lus nug ntawm yog vim li cas cov niam txiv ntxub lawv cov me nyuam, ces nws tsis yog qhov tseeb ua rau koj xav. Qhov tseeb hais tias koj tseem tabtom mus rau tiv nrog qhov teeb meem, koj ua pov thawj tias koj yeej hlub koj tus me nyuam. Txhob kev ntxub koj txais voos, qaug zog, npau taws, ntxhov siab, ib tug siab ntawm helplessness. Thiab qhov tseeb yog vim li cas yuav tsum saib lawv tus kheej. Yuav ua li cas koj xav tau kev pab yog tsis tau ntsib? Yuav ua li cas rau tej chaw ua koj demand ntau heev los ntawm koj tus kheej? Yog vim li cas koj yuav tsum tau "zoo meej niam"? Los qhuas koj cov neeg nyob ze thiab cov phooj ywg los yog cov me nyuam mus xav nyiam thiab muaj kev nyab xeeb? Heev feem ntau xav txog tej yam kev sib ntxub ntawm cov xeeb ntxwv - nws yog ua tau ib tug qias neeg thiab yuam cai rau kuv tus kheej, tsis muaj self-esteem, uas txhawb cov niam txiv hais tias lawv tsis tau tiv nrog lawv cov hauj lwm.

Tsis txhob ntshai mus qhia lawv cov kev xav thiab rau cov me nyuam. Heev feem ntau, cov niam txiv ua ib tug loj loj yuam kev los ntawm tsis tso lawv yeej muaj tseeb tus cwj pwm txawv. Thiab tus me nyuam yog nyob rau hauv ib tug yooj yim teeb meem no: nws xav tias hais tias leej niam los yog leej txiv yog npau taws, khib, xav tias nws subconsciously. Tab sis yog hais tias lawv tsis txawj hais lus ncaj qha hais txog dab tsi nqis tes ua lawv tsis nyiam dab tsi npau taws, tab sis, theej los ntawm ib tug txiav txim zoo ntawm kev txhaum rau lawv tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv, ua kom "txhiv" nws zoo li ib txwm ua siab zoo, khoom plig, cov me nyuam kawm tau dab tsi yeej muaj tseeb txoj kev xav yuav tsum tau muab zais uas lub siab dawb paug tsis yog tso cai. Whereas lub qhov hluav thiab muab los ntawm lawv tus cwj pwm txawv ua xwb los neurotic cwm pwm txoj kev loj hlob. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, nws tsis yog hais txog mus pov tseg rau hauv lub aggression rau txhua lub sijhawm, thiab qw rau sawv daws: "Kuv ntxub lawv cov me nyuam, vim hais tias lawv yog ..." Tab sis hais tias nws bluntly: "Kuv npau taws vim kuv tsis nyiam li ntawd,-thiab-yog li ntawd, kuv mob thaum koj ua tau li ntawd thiab thiaj li ", - zoo npaum li cas thiab tsis muaj mob rau lub kev sib raug zoo nyob rau hauv lub tsev neeg tshaj ncaj ncees thiab kev tsuj ntawm tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv nyob rau hauv txhua txoj kev.