Poob ntsej muag - yog dab tsi no?

Poob ntsej muag - nws yog ib tug ntawm cov feem ntau haib stimuli uas tsis tshua muaj neeg rhiab tib neeg psyche. Cuaj kaum, qhov tshwm sim muaj peev xwm thiab yuav tsum tau tiv thaiv.

txhais

Poob ntsej muag - yog tus neeg tus cwj pwm tswj suppressing lub siab ntawm meej mom zoo li tus txiv neej nws tus kheej, thiab nyob rau hauv lub qhov muag ntawm lwm tus neeg. Qhov kev ua yuav tsum yog tsis paub los yog txhob txwm, los yog rau lub hom phiaj ntawm nws tus kheej thaum lub sij hawm txoj kev kawm. Nws yuav tsum tau muab sau tseg tias humiliation yuav ua loj puas hawv kev poob plig, thiab lub paj hlwb kev ntshawv siab.

Rau ib tug kwv yuav tsum tau nyob xws ua si, humiliation - nws yog ib tug loj poob siab thiab ib lub tshuab kom zoo-qab. Self-esteem thiab humiliation - nws yog ib lub plaub kauj ruam nyob rau hauv Maslow lub hierarchy ntawm xav tau kev pab. Yog li, ib tug neeg consciously nws kom tsis txhob humiliating teeb meem, uas feem ntau ua rau antisocial thiab sociopathy.

Ntshai humiliation

Poob ntsej muag - nws yog twv yuav raug hu ib qho seeb lawm. Ntshai yog lom zem ntau vim lub fact tias nyob rau hauv xws li ib unpleasant teeb meem no tej zaum yuav ib tug uas yog kiag li tsis yooj yim sua rau puas yuav to taub. Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no, ntau npaum li cas nyob rau koj tus kheej puas siab puas ntsws yam ntxwv. Yog li ntawd, yog ib tug neeg yog kaj siab lug thiab lub hlwb ruaj khov, nws ntsiag to ciaj sia tsis kaj lub siab qhov teeb meem no (nws yog tau hais tias nws yuav tsis tawm ib tug kab). Tab sis ib tug tsis muaj zog tus humiliation yuav tawg, uas tej zaum kuj ua rau yus tragic txim.

Kev raug yuam thiab humiliation - nws yog undesirable kev xav uas cov tub ntxhais hluas ntaus nqi tshwj xeeb heev. Nws yog thaum lub sij hawm lub sij hawm no qhov thiab xaav ntawm lub ntiaj teb no. Thaum nyob ntawm lub humiliation nyob rau hauv thaum tiav hluas, neeg yog ceev faj ntawm lwm tus neeg thiab kaw nyob rau hauv nws tus kheej. Sim mus tshem tawm cov sij hawm ntawm tsis tshua mob heev ntawm qhov teeb meem no, nws yuav reclusive thiab txhoj puab heev, uas complicates tus txheej txheem ntawm adaptation rau hauv zej zog.

Puas yuav ua tau kom tsis txhob muaj lub humiliation?

Kev raug yuam thiab humiliation tsis muaj ib tug yuav qab ntxiag. Nws yog tej yam ntuj tso hais tias cov neeg ua kom tsis txhob rau tej lub sijhawm, txawm yog hais tias lawv tsis tau yav tas los tej zoo xws li cov txoj kev xav. Raws li txoj cai, cov neeg no qaug nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem. Yog hais tias koj xav tias qhov teeb meem no yog cua sov tuaj, koj muaj peev xwm siv tau cov no txoj kev:

• Sim kom to taub txog cov mus ob peb vas ntawm nws interlocutor. Yog hais tias nws yog txhoj puab heev, tsis txhob qhia lawv lub tswv yim, txawm yog hais tias nws yog tus.
• Sim defuse qhov teeb meem no los ntawm kev pauv qhov kev kawm. Nws yuav tsum tau ua tib zoo thiaj li tsis mus ua txhaum nws interlocutor.
• Yog hais tias koj xav tias humiliation - yog lub ntsiab lub hom phiaj ntawm lub interlocutor, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob txawm sim los ua pov thawj lawv cov ntaub ntawv. Txawm yog hais tias koj pomzoo nrog tus cwj pwm txawv, cia li tig ib ncig thiab mus kev deb.

Yuav ua li cas kom ciaj sia lub humiliation?

Degradation ntawm tib neeg meej mom - yog ib txoj kev ntawm yus tus kheej-txoj lus pom zoo, cov kua zaub ntsuab, thiab lwm yam Txawm li cas los, rau ib tug neeg uas tau undergone xws li ib feem, nws yog ib tug loj kev poob siab, uas tej zaum yuav ncua lub imprint rau tus so ntawm nws lub neej ... Muaj mob thaum ib tug humiliating teeb meem no los ua tus yog vim li cas ntawm yus tua yus (tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob rau hauv cov tub ntxhais hluas). Yuav kom ciaj sia tsis kaj lub siab qhov teeb meem no tsis muaj loj txim rau lub psyche, koj yuav tsum xyuam xim rau cov tswv yim nram no:

• Nws yog ib qho qauv ntawm "deletion". Koj yuav tsum nyob thiab nrog lwm tus neeg raws li yog ib tug unpleasant teeb meem yeej tsis tshwm sim.
• Yog hais tias koj tsis muaj peev xwm los lwv los ntawm lub cim xeeb ntawm ib tug humiliating teeb meem no, sim yeej cov kev pab los ntawm nrig txog kev pom cov dluab. Yog relaxed, xav txog tej yam uas koj puas thiab txoj kev xav txuam nrog lawv, kom tawm cov dej los yog cov cua blows.
• Nrhiav tej pliaj kwv (xws li ib tug tawg tais, ib tug laus qho khoom ua si, ib tug tawg moos yog) thiab ua lag luam nyob rau hauv nws tag nrho lawv tej negativity. Ntxiv mus, qhov no tshaj plaws yuav tsum raug rhuav tshem.
• Yog hais tias koj xav txog koj tus kheej yuav tsum tau muaj zog cov neeg noog tsis zoo zog thiab xa nws mus rau qhov kev txiav txim. Koj txoj kev yuav yeej yuav thaiv tag nrho cov tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv tshwm sim los ntawm humiliation.
• Xav tias nyob los ntawm ib tug teeb meem no tsis yog raws li ib tug poob siab, tab sis raws li ib tug lub neej zaj lus qhia. Ua tib zoo tsom xam dab tsi tshwm sim, to taub nws ua. Tsis tas li ntawd tsim nyog ib lub tswv yim ntawm kev coj cwj pwm uas yuav pab tau koj kom tsis txhob poob ntsej muag nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej.

Kuv yuav tsum tau ua ntawv thov mus rau ib tug kev puas siab ntsws?

Thuam qhov kev xav ntawm ntau noj maj mam. Txawm li cas los, qhov no tej zaum yuav ua rau loj puas hawv raug mob. Nws yog to taub hais tias tag nrho cov neeg yog cov sib txawv. Ib tug neeg yuav coj humiliation ntsiag to, ib tug neeg yuav tuaj tawm ntawm kev nyuaj siab los ntawm koj tus kheej, thiab rau ib tug neeg txawm nyob ze kev pab txhawb nqa yuav tsis muaj ib yam nplij yus. Nyob rau hauv lub caij nyoog kawg no cov ntaub ntawv, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb tig mus rau ib tug kev puas siab ntsws. Lub tshwj xeeb yuav pab tau koj ib zaug ntxiv xav tias zoo li ib tug tag nrho tib neeg hais tias. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, ib tug tsim nyog kev puas siab ntsws yuav muab koj zoo tswv yim rau lub neej yav tom ntej, uas yuav cia ib tug zoo thiab ntxim tawm los ntawm qhov dev teeb meem.

Kev cai thiab kev puas siab puas ntsws humiliation

Thuam txoj kev xav yuav muaj ntau qhov cuam tshuam. Yog li ntawd, feem ntau cov feem ntau ib tug kev cai humiliation. Nws aims muab ib tug txiv neej nyob rau hauv ib tug phem lub teeb nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm lwm tus neeg, provoking ridicule thiab kev tsim txom. Feem ntau nws kev txhawj xeeb ib co nta ntawm tsos, tus cwj pwm, tus kheej lub neej, thiab hais txog.

Cuaj kaum, tsis muaj teeb meem yuav ua li cas muaj zog los yog ib tug ntshai ntawm cov pej xeem raug txim, heev npaum li cas puas siab puas ntsws humiliation. Nws yuav ib lub xeev ntawm lub siab, mob lub sijhawm thiab cov ntxhais. Raws li ib tug tshwm sim, ib tug neeg tej zaum yuav poob mus rau hauv ib tug sib sib zog nqus kev nyuaj siab.

Yuav ua li cas poob ntsej muag ib tug neeg (tsis yuav tsum tau coj raws li ib daim ntawv qhia mus ua hauj lwm)?

Cov neeg feem ntau careless nyob rau hauv kev soj ntsuam txog nrog txhua lwm yam. Lawv tsis txawm xav tias mej hais lo lus yuav ua rau loj puas hawv raug mob. Yuav ua li cas poob ntsej muag ib tug neeg? Yooj yim npaum li nws tej zaum yuav zoo li. Yog derogatory lus thiab lub sijhawm:

• Demonstrative hais txog ntawm lub cuab yam. Piv txwv li: "Koj yuav tsum txhuam koj cov hniav!", "Peb yuav tsum hlau khaub ncaws!", "Koj muaj peev xwm tsis slurp rau ntawm lub rooj!" Yog li, ib tug neeg nws qhia me ntsis ntawm ib tug tsawg theem ntawm kev txawj ntse, lub cev thiab kev loj hlob ntawm ib tug tus nrog sib ntaus.
• Thuam ntawm paub daws teeb tib neeg tus, uas yog ua tau tswj lawv nws. Piv txwv li: "Leej twg haus luam yeeb haus luam yeeb, cov neeg ruam!" Qhov no yog lub feem ntau txawm piv txwv. Feem ntau cov neeg cuam tshuam tus kheej lawm los yog ib tug ntau loj heev teeb meem.
• Nws yuav zoo li muab tswv yim - nws ua mob ab tsi thiab txawm noble. Cuaj kaum, tej zaum yuav muaj ib co thaum subtext. Sim muab pab tswv yim, cov neeg feem ntau muab tso rau lub interlocutor nyob rau hauv lub teeb los yog impartially qhia kev txawj ntse dua lwm tus.
• Tsis tsuas yog cov kab lus, tab sis kuj cov suab uas nws hais tias nws yuav poob ntsej muag ib tug neeg. Yog li ntawd, disparaging los yog khav laus tej zaum yuav ua txhaum, txawm yog tias koj hais ib txhia niaj hnub tshaj plaws.
• Unconstructive thuam rau tib neeg passions thiab kev ntseeg. Piv txwv li, thov hais tias tag nrho cov boxers - lub hlwb ruamqauj, tias tag nrho cov ntxias - quav dej quav cawv, thiab cov musicians - quav, cov neeg ua mus discredit koj txoj kev ua neej.
• Nyob rau hauv kev soj ntsuam txog nrog ib tug kws muaj txuj nyob rau hauv ib tug cheeb tsam, cov neeg feem ntau qhuas nws competitors. Cuaj kaum, nws yuav muab txhais raws li ib tug lub siab xav mus ploj zuj zus mus rau txoj kev zoo tshaj ntawm cov interlocutor.
• Tis thiab tso dag thaum lub sij hawm sib tham. Neeg, yeej txaj muag tsis tis, uas ua raws li ib tug loj thiab muaj nuj nqis kab lus.
• Cov cia li hloov ntawm lub npe, thaum lwm tus neeg hais lus txog ib yam dab tsi tseem ceeb heev rau lawv. Qhov no yog ib tug ua qauv qhia ntawm tsis saib xyuas thiab saib tsis taus.
• Nta ntawm tsos - ib qho ntawm feem mob yam. Heev yooj yim mus rau offend ib tug neeg thiab ua rau nws sab hauv tshuab, Yog hais tias koj qhia kom meej nws nyob rau hauv daim duab flaws los yog tej yam tsis zoo.

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Nws yog tsis yooj yim mus los ntawm kev puas hlwb thiab lub cev humiliation. Yog hais tias koj raug xws li ib tug teeb meem no, nws yog tsim nyog kom tsim lawv tus yam ntxwv rau nws. Nws yog to taub hais tias, ua kom poob ntsej muag rau lwm tus neeg nyob rau hauv thawj qhov chaw humbles nws tus kheej. Thaum koj to taub qhov no, koj yuav muaj ntau yam yooj yim dua mus los ntawm ib tug unpleasant teeb meem no tsis muaj sinking rau hauv kev nyuaj siab.