Tsis-hais lus gestures thiab lawv lub ntsiab

Qee zaum cov neeg lus tsis phim lawv yeej muaj tseeb kev ntseeg thiab kev xa. Yuav kom to taub li cas yog tiag tiag xav koj tus khub yuav pab uas tsis yog-hais lus gestures. Ua ib tug me ntsis ntau attentive thaum lub sij hawm com. Qhov no yuav tso cai rau koj yuav tau txais ib tug ncauj lus ntau ntxiv tshaj qhov kuv xav kom dhau tus nrog sib ntaus.

Yog muaj tseeb no?

Muaj coob tus neeg ntseeg txog xws li ib qhov teeb meem raws li cov lus sib txuas lus. Piav, lub ntsej muag kab zauv yog pom raws li ib yam dab tsi tej yam ntuj tso thiab mechanically. Tab sis nws twb muab qhov no qhov tseeb, peb yuav tham txog cov lus mechanism ntawm objectivity. Psychologists tau mob siab ib tug ntau ntawm kev ua hauj lwm ntawm qhov teeb meem. Tab sis yog hais tias tus skeptics thiab qhov no yog tsis ib tug sib cav, los xyaum ua ib tug neeg sab nraud soj nws yog txaus. Piv txwv li, kev kawm tau decipher cov kev xav thiab txoj kev xav ntawm lawv hlub, thiab tom qab ntawd koj yuav tsum tau mus saib los ntawm sab nraud.

Ntawm cov hoob kawm, peb yuav tsum tsis txhob hnov qab uas muaj kev zam rau txoj cai. Yog li, ib tug neeg yuav coj li no los yog tias txoj hauj lwm tsuas yog quab yuam los ntawm tus cwj pwm. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, nws yog tau hais tias nws twb tsis xis nyob los yog nws tsis xis khaub ncaws. Tib neeg tus cwj pwm yuav muaj ib tug tseem ceeb feem kub. Yog li, peb yuav tsum tsis txhob underestimate lub luag hauj lwm ntawm cov lus kev sib txuas lus. Txawm li cas los, ua ntej ua zaum kawg cov lus xaus, nws yog tsim nyog nrhiav zoo li lub tej yam kev mob nyob rau hauv uas qhov kev sib tham yuav siv sij hawm qhov chaw.

Yuav ua li cas lub ob txhais tes nyob rau hauv nws twb

Feem ntau, nws yuav tau pom raws li ib tug neeg thaum lub sij hawm sib tham nrog nws ob txhais tes rau hauv nws hnab ris. Ib tug neeg xav tias qhov no yog ib tug manifestation ntawm phem tus cwj pwm zoo. Tsis tas li ntawd, tsis txhob tsis kam lees yuav lub tau hais tias ib tug neeg yog elementary khov, thaum nyob rau hauv lub seeb kub tej yam kev mob. Txawm li cas los, yog hais tias peb xav txog qhov uas tsis yog-hais lus cev lus, koj yuav tau tuaj mus rau nram qab no cov lus xaus:

• Ob txhais tes muab zais rau hauv nws lub hnab ris, yuav yog ib qho hais txog ntawm khaus concentration. Cov neeg nyob rau hauv txoj hauj lwm tej zaum yuav ib yam dab tsi xav txog los yog los tsim kom tau ib lub hom phiaj ntawm kev txiav txim. Txawm li cas los, tej zaum nws yuav tsum yog ib tug me ntsis qoj los yog yob ntawm luj taws rau cov ntiv taw.
• Lwm tseem ceeb ntawm no piav tes piav taw - nws yog laj. Piv txwv li, nyob rau ntev lub rooj sib tham los yog sib sau ua ke ntawm secular neeg feem ntau taug kev, nws ob txhais tes rau hauv nws twb, vim hais tias koj tsis tau tawm cov kev tshwm sim, tab sis tsis muaj dab tsi interesting yog tshwm sim rau nws. Yog li, Yog hais tias koj tus khub tau noj ib tug zoo xws li cov hauj lwm, tej zaum koj yuav xav mus xaus lub xov tooj los yog xa mus rau ib tug ntau exciting khiav.
• Yog hais tias lub ob txhais tes yog nyob rau hauv nws twb nkaum lub mloog thiab hais lus, nws tej zaum yuav qhia nws insincerity. Feem ntau, nws yog txhais tes muab cov lus dag, tab sis vim hais tias cov neeg instinctively nkaum lawv kom koj thiaj li tsis guessed nws intentions.
• Xwb, ob txhais tes nyob rau hauv lub hnab ris yuav hais txog lub passive cwj pwm ntawm koj interlocutor. Nws yuav tej zaum yuav tsis xav los yog tsis xav kom ua li cas koj qhia rau nws. Tab sis cov tshwm sim yog, ntawm chav kawm, yuav yog nyob ntawm seb koj nyob rau theem ntawm txoj cai.
• Yog hais tias peb xav txog qhov uas tsis yog-hais lus gestures ntawm cov txiv neej, nyob rau hauv nrog cov poj niam ob txhais tes muab zais rau hauv nws lub hnab tshos trouser (cia li ris!) Tham txog yam koj nyiam thiab libido. Tab sis thaum kev soj ntsuam txog nrog cov neeg ntawm lawv tus kheej nrog txiv neej pw, ces lawv qhia lub hwj chim thiab kev ywj pheej.

qhia zoo

Paub qhov nonverbal gestures, koj muaj peev xwm zoo heev piv koj lub neej, vim hais tias lawv muaj peev xwm yuav siv tau los to taub qhov tseeb intentions ntawm lub interlocutor thiab tseem ceeb rau koj. Piv txwv li, yog tias ib tug neeg yog sim ua kom pom nws tus kheej-kev tso siab, raws li zoo raws li lub superiority thiab lub hwj chim tshaj koj, nws yuav tsum to taub los ntawm cov nram qab no nta:

• Tus txiv neej nteg nws txhais tes tom qab nws rov qab, puffing tawm nws lub hauv siab rau pem hauv ntej. Yog li, nws yuav tau qhia nws ua siab tawv qhawv.
• Ob txhais tes casually poob mus rau hauv lub hnab ris, thiab hauv lub cev yog impressively so. Yog li tus neeg yog ua los qhia hais tias koj hmov tshua txog nws, thiab uninteresting.
• Tej zaum overbearing neeg muaj peev xwm coj ib tug defensive stance, nws txhais tes hla nws lub hauv siab thiab rub tus ntiv tes xoo. Qhov no txhais tau tias tab sis nws nws los mus tiv thaiv nws tus kheej, tab sis pom tau tias superiority dua koj.

tactile sis

Xav qhov uas tsis yog-hais lus gestures, yuav tsum them nyiaj tshwj xeeb mloog mus rau cov tactile sis raug zoo nrog cov interlocutor. Yog li ntawd, peb yuav tham txog cov nram no:

• Yog hais tias ib tug lub rooj sib tham nrog ib tug phooj ywg los yog tus txheeb ze koj puag, ib tug luv luv hu yuav tsum yuav tsis muaj ntau tshaj li ib tug tribute rau decency.
• Puag txhais tau tias cov neeg ua bored thiab zoo siab heev tau ntsib koj. Txawm li cas los, yog hais tias tus raug yog muaj zog heev, thiab koj yog cia zawm rau nws, nws tseem tau hais tias ib tug neeg yog tsuas yog ua kom lub siab thaum pom koj.
• Yog hais tias, thaum lub sij hawm lub khawm ntawm ib tug txiv neej, khoom koj txhawj xeeb thiab koj xis nyob, nws hais txog saib koj.
• Yog hais tias koj ua raws li tus neeg ua ntej yuav qhib nws txhais tes rau ib tug sib tuav tes, nws hais lus ntawm nws tsis kawg kev cia siab rau koj.
• Yog hais tias, thaum lub sij hawm lub sib tuav tes txiv neej yog tsis muab rau ib tug txhais tes, thiab los ze zog mus rau lub dab teg, nws hais lus ntawm nws ua tej yam txawv tus cwj pwm. Nws yog li ntawd nyob rau hauv lub hnub ntawm lub Roman faj tim teb chaws twb soj ntsuam hais tias muaj nyob rau hauv lub qhov luag dagger.
• Yog hais tias ib tug neeg shakes koj txhais tes nrees clasps los yog ob tug txhais tes, tuav kwm (tej zaum yuav ua tau rau koj tsis xis nyob), nws tsuas qhia tau hais tias nws tus muaj kev xyiv fab thaum lub rooj sib tham rau koj.
• Yog hais tias, thaum lub sij hawm lub sib tuav tes koj xav tias koj txhais tes interlocutor sluggish, cov khoom sib tham tsis ua hauj lwm, vim hais tias nws tsis yog configured hu rau koj.
• Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej yuav siv sij hawm nws txhais tes , xibtes down, rau ib tug subconscious, nws nyhav mus rau tus thawj koj.
• Pat nyob tom qab yog cov phooj ywg tus yam ntxwv. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, qhov no piav tes piav taw qha lub dag lub zog ntawm cov interlocutor thiab nws tsis kam pab.
• Ua tib zoo ntawm cov neeg uas thaum lub sij hawm qhov kev sib tham lob koj sab caj npab. Koj zoo nkaus li mistrust, lawv zoo li no sim mus nrhiav koj rau nws, thiab txawm hais tom ntsis hais tias nws yuav ua tau koj txhim khu kev qha cov phooj ywg. Tab sis qhov no piav tes piav taw yog tsis ib txwm ua tiag tiag, vim hais tias xws puas siab puas ntsws hom kev kawm feem ntau siv los ntawm cov neeg uas muaj qia dub intentions.

Yuav ua li cas kom paub txog pab koj tu siab

Ib tug ntawm cov ntsiab teeb meem ntawm kev sib raug ntawm cov opposite kuj - qhov no tsis sib ntseeg. Tej zaum ntau tshaj cov lus yuav qhia tau cov lus kev sib txuas lus. Gestures uas qhia pab koj tu siab, cov nram qab no:

• Gleam nyob rau hauv nws ob lub qhov muag - yog tsis yog ib tug tswvyim hais ua dabneeg. Ib tug neeg muaj pab koj tu siab, tseeb, zoo nkaus li ib tug me ntsis txawv, thiab cov cornea yuav ntau hydrated. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, cov tub kawm ntawv yuav tsum dog dig txhab.
• Enamored neeg nyob rau qib subconscious, ua kom haum. Yog li, thaum lub rooj sib tham, nws ua ntau yam manipulations nrog lawv cov tsos: raws qab, cia li nkaum kiag rau hauv lub plab, straightens nws cov plaub hau.
• Tus txiv neej thiab cov poj niam uas ua rau kom lwm tus neeg sab nraud kev sib deev yam ntxwv. Qhov no tej zaum yuav tso tus ntiv tes hla lub siv ntawm ris, dav-set ob txhais ceg, hle rau sab saum toj khawm ntawm nws lub tsho.
• Active gestures (tej zaum tsis tsim nyog) yuav pab raws li ib tug kos npe rau ntawm pab koj tu siab. Lub fact tias ib tug txiv neej nyob rau hauv kev hlub feem ntau poob tswj lawv ua.
• Ntsuam xyuas cov intentions ntawm lub interlocutor yuav ua tau nyob rau hauv cov kev taw qhia ntawm nws gaze. Yog hais tias nws stares rau hauv lub qhov muag, muaj yog vim li cas mus ntseeg tau hais tias nws yog xav nyob rau hauv koj li ib tug neeg. Thiab saib, khiav ib ncig ntawm lub cev, nws yuav tsis tham txog ntau tshaj kev sib deev.
• Yog hais tias tus neeg ntawm qhov opposite pw ua niam txiv tas li sim kom tau los ze zog, los yog nyob rau hauv tej pretext, mus kov koj, muaj tsis muaj tsis ntseeg nyob rau hauv nws sympathies.

nim

Tej zaum ib tug neeg tseem yog zaj dabneeg, tsis paub hais tias lwm tus sab nrauv yog kiag li uninteresting. Tuaj mus rau cov kev pab uas tsis yog-hais lus kev sib txuas lus. Gestures qhia indifference, yog raws li nram no:

• Yog hais tias lwm tus neeg crosses nws caj npab, nws instinctively kaw rau koj. Koj care txog nws tog twg los, los yog tsis kaj siab.
• Nco ntsoov qhov chaw uas lub tswv yim interlocutor xa mus. Yog hais tias nws zoo nyob qhov twg, tiam sis tsis nyob rau hauv koj lub ntsej muag, nws yog tsim nyog los suaj kaum qhov kev sib tham.
• Yog hais tias ib tug neeg xav ua kom xaus qhov kev sib tham thiab mus, nws yuav muab qhov glancing nyob rau ntawm nws saib. Tsis tas li ntawd hnav nws nkawm khau yuav tsum tau qhia mus rau lub qhov rooj.

ntawm lub ntsej muag nta

Ntau yuav hais txog ib tug txiv neej thiab nws mus ob peb vas rau nws lub ntsej muag kab zauv. Tsis-hais lus gestures, thaws rov los nyob rau hauv lub ntsej muag, yuav hais txog cov nram qab no:

• roj ob lub qhov muag thiab pursed daim di ncauj hais lus ntawm ib tug npau taws mus ob peb vas;
• tsa pob muag thiab dav ob lub qhov muag yog ib tug surprise;
• nyob rau hauv ib lub xeev ntawm kev ntshai daim di ncauj ncav us txog dav, thiab lawv cov ces kaum yog nws txo qis;
• kev zoo siab yog yus muaj los ntawm ib tug twj ywm ntsia thiab me ntsis tsa cov ces kaum ntawm nws lub qhov ncauj;
• tu siab txiv neej theem nws eyebrows ua ke thiab cia lub ces kaum ntawm lub daim di ncauj.

suab nrov ntawm lub suab

Lub ntsiab txoj kev kis cov lus qhia - hais lus. Ntsiag to gestures yuav qhia tau hais tias lub xam phaj yog sim mus nkaum. Tsis muaj tsawg tuav yuav ua tau ib tug laus uas muaj peev xwm qhia rau koj txog cov nram no:

• ceev ceev thiab inconsistent nws nyob rau hauv hushed tones qhia zoo siab;
• kaj siab lug thiab nrov sib tham ua tim khawv rau active tej yam txaus siab;
• Yog hais tias ib tug neeg hais tias sluggish, tej lub suab nrov ntawm lub kawg ntawm cov kab lus, nws yog ib tug weariness;
• ntsuas thiab qeeb hais lus, uas yog yus muaj los ntawm ib tug tas mus li laus, pov thawj ntawm lub siab hlob ntawm lub interlocutor;
• tas mus li mas nyob rau hauv kev hais lus, nce tsis qhia nervousness thiab tsis muaj kev cog qoob loo.

tej yam tshwm sim ntawm kev dag

Paub qhov tseem ceeb ntawm cov lus gestures uas yuav ntes lies interlocutors. Yog li ntawd, them mloog mus rau lub ntsiab lus nram qab:

• ntev lub sij hawm mus pib ib kab lus ntau zaus los pauses;
• asymmetry nyob rau hauv lub ntsej muag nqaij;
• ntau tshaj 10 vib nas this yog tsis hloov los ntawm lub ntsej muag qhia;
• cwj pwm txawv tshwm sim lig thiab tsis phim rau lub ntsiab lus ntawm tus hais lus;
• ncav us txog luag hais tias tsis tsim nkhaus thiab nqaim kab ntawm ob daim di ncauj;
• tsis muaj qhov muag ntsia;
• manipulating ob txhais tes thiab ob txhais taw (tapping, laim) thiab zakusyvanie daim di ncauj;
• Sim kom gesticulations nyob rau hauv daim tshev;
• hnyav ua tsis taus pa thiab lub qhov kev txhim kho ntawm lub suab nrov ntawm lub suab;
• kaw teeb nrog hla caj npab thiab txhais ceg, thiab bent rov qab;
• muab tshuaj ntxuav lub qhov ntswg los yog xyoo pua (nws yuav ua tau ib tug afterthought thiab NW nyuam qhuav hnov li cas);
• sab xis (nyob rau hauv cov nqe lus ntawm lub cev lus) yog ntau yam tshaj li tus sab laug;
• exaggerated cwj pwm txawv thiab gestures;
• nquag blinking.

deb

Xav qhov uas tsis yog-hais lus txhais tau tias ntawm gestures, peb yuav tsis hais txog cov haiv neeg, uas yog muaj nyob rau ntawm cov neeg nyob rau hauv tej yam tshwm sim. Yog li ntawd, feem ntau txais rau nram qab no tsis yog xam tau tias yog:

• txog li ib nrab ib 'meter' - yog lub intimate kev ncua deb ntawm hlub uas muaj nyob rau hauv ib tug kev sib raug zoo ntawm kev ntseeg siab;
• los ntawm 0.5 mus 1.5 m - rau no deb crony lus kev sib txuas lus;
• 1.5-3.5 m - lub social deb uas yog xis rau kev sib txuas lus nruab nrab neeg, raws li tau zoo raws li nyob rau ua lag ua luam teeb meem;
• 3.7 m - yog ib tug pej xeem kev ncua deb ntawm uas cov kev ua tau zoo yog muaj nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm ib tug loj cov neeg tuaj saib.

Pab kom paub txhua

Max Egger twg muaj ib invaluable pab mus rau cov kev tshawb fawb ntawm lo lus nug no, raws li ib tug txhais tau tias ntawm cov lus gestures. Nws tsim ib tug system ntawm 75 Pib ntsais koj teeb, lub ntsiab sawv daws yuav yog cov nram qab no:

• zog ntawm tus Adas lub Kua qhia siab los yog interlocutor hais tias nws yog qhia qhov tseeb;
• yog hais tias tus ob txhais tes yog nyob rau hauv kev sib cuag nrog ib yam khoom, nws yog hais tias tsis meej;
• Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej stroking nws muab lub puab tsaig, nws yog xav tias yuav ib qho kev;
• zakusyvanie ntiv tes, mem hluav los yog lub tuam tsev txhais tau tias tus neeg uas koj kwv yees;
• stroking rau nraum qab ntawm lub caj dab yog npau taws los yog zoo nkaus li raug teeb meem los ntawm koj;
• Yog hais tias ib tug neeg rubs nws xib teg, nws xav kom tau txais cov kev pab cuam;
• thom khwm yog ob txhais taw sib nrug nyob rau hauv tes, ib tug neeg pom tau tias superior rau koj.

xaus

Yog hais tias koj xav paub ntau tshaj li qhov koj hais, nws yog tsim nyog los kawm cov lus piav. Tsis-hais lus kev sib txuas lus yog ib qhov nyuaj rau tswj, thiab yog li ntawd nws yuav suav hais tias lub feem ntau lub hom phiaj. Txawm li cas los, yeej tsis nco qab txog tias tej yam gestures tej zaum yuav txuam nrog zoo-lossis lwm cawv.