Yuav ua li cas temper lub cim: ib daim ntawv qhia mus ua hauj lwm, lub tswv yim pom zoo thiab cov piv txwv

Lo lus "cim" yog ib yam uas Greek keeb kwm. Thaum nws meant ntaug imprint portraits ntawm rulers rau npib. Nws thawj lub ntsiab lus twb txuam nrog kev coj noj coj zoo, uas undoubtedly muaj ib tug huab tais: lub siab dawb paug, nyob ruaj khov kho, ua siab loj, mob siab, thiab siab ua hauj lwm.

Niaj hnub no, lub sij hawm hais txog ib tug txheej ntawm tus kheej zoo ntawm tus neeg. Raws li psychologists, lawv lom zem ntau yog nyob ntawm seb li cas thiab muaj peev xwm.

Pw nyob rau hauv lub qhov ntawm thaum yau, thiab yog tsim los ntawm ib tug lub neej ... Yog li ntawd yog hais tias nws yog tias peb muaj peev xwm los txhawb nws, tsis muaj sim mus nrhiav pov thawj nws tus kheej kev qaug zog thiab passions ntuj xav? Yuav ua li cas txog kev kawm ntawv? Cov niam txiv yuav cuam tshuam cov ua cim ntawm lub zag? No thiab lwm yam teeb meem, peb cov tsab xov xwm no yuav teb. Los ntawm nws koj yuav kawm tau li cas rau temper cov ua cim, txoj kev cov neeg zoo uas koj muaj peev xwm tsis tsuas tau tshem ntawm kev ntshai, shortcomings thiab weaknesses, tab sis kuj yuav hloov mus rau qhov zoo dua qhov destiny.

Leej twg yog hu ua spineless?

Qhov no qhov teeb meem yuav tsum tau ua ntej saib xyuas. Ib tug neeg uas ib tug tsis muaj zog tus cwj pwm yog ib qho yooj yim mus succumb mus rau lub temptation, nws yog coj los ntawm impulses thiab resentment, thiab ntau yam kev ntshai yuav tau coj nws mus rau kev nyuaj siab thiab kev xav tsis khov.

Muaj zog yuav tsis muaj nyiaj los mus tiv thaiv lawv lub tswv yim, lawv yog ib qho yooj yim rau kev tswj. Xws li ib tug neeg yog tsis zoo li mus ua ib tug thawj coj, tab sis txawm nyob rau hauv no nws yog muaj hmoo, nws yuav tsum tau raug thawb ib ncig ntawm nws subordinates tu siab heev, raws li lawv thov.

Yog hais tias koj pom ib tug zuj zus tus me nyuam los yog qhov tsaus muag-hearted nta, ua tsis tau tag kev cia siab. Ntseeg kuv, ua hauj lwm rau ib tug kho lus thiab kev kawm ntawv yeej ib txwm them cov nqi tawm. Koj tseem muaj ib lub caij nyoog rau temper lub cim muaj zog.

Yuav ua li cas tus cwj pwm?

Muaj ntau ntau yooj yim zoo uas yuav pab tau ib tug neeg los tswj lub instincts thiab passions, tiv tej kev ntxias thiab seductions.

Peb yuav kawm txog lawv nyob rau hauv kev nthuav dav thiab tsom xam yuav pab nrhiav tau cov lus teb rau cov nqe lus nug ntawm yuav ua li cas temper cim. Koj yuav tau txais cov kev kawm ntawd, yog tias koj ua hauj lwm rau txoj kev loj hlob ntawm txhua tus ntawm cov qualities.

Dab impulses thiab passions

Aristotle sau txog lub xya loj rog uas khom hauv tus neeg. Nws yog hais txog mus rau lawv raws li nram no:

• hlub;
• ntxub;
• irresistible muaj siab;
• ntshai;
• unbridled kev kaj siab;
• txoj kev chim siab;
• disheartened.

Ntawm cov hoob kawm, peb xav tias cov cwj pwm txawv ntau lub sij hawm ib hnub twg, tab sis peb yuav tsis tso cai rau lawv los tswj tej yam peb ua thiab cawv kev txiav txim siab. Txwv tsis pub, lawv yuav tsuas ua qhev, lawv zuaj, yuav muaj ntawm tag nrho nws cov kev xav. Ib tug neeg uas muaj ib tug seasoned cim, tsis mus txog rau passions, yog qub txeeg qub teg ntawm cov uas qaug zog.

Tsis txhob cia los txhawb koj tsis muaj dab tsi tab sis txiav txim siab zoo. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, txhua txhua nyob tus neeg yog raug gusts, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob rau hauv nyuaj. Tab sis ib tug tshaj plaws - mus qhia tus cwj pwm txawv (qhov no yog cia li ib tug muaj zog txiv neej thiab yog tsis ntshai), thiab lwm heev - nyoo lawv lub hwj chim.

Yuav ua li cas kom tiv thaiv lub irrational impulses? Qhia cov muaj peev xwm mus coj ib tug sober saib tej teeb meem no. Ua ntej yuav txiav txim siab mus ua siab ncaj nug koj tus kheej thiab teb honestly, hais tias nws forces koj mus ua ib tug kev xaiv: lub hom phiaj yog vim li cas los yog impulses troubled lub siab?

Teem muaj tiag cov hom phiaj

Tej zaum lub neej nws tus kheej tempers cov ua cim. Nyob rau hauv ib tug yooj yim teeb meem no feem ntau tshwm sim tib neeg zoo uas nws nws tus kheej tsis paub. Txawm li cas los, qhov no tsis tau txhais hais tias koj yuav tau sim nws nyob ib leeg rau muab pov mus rau hauv qhov ua txhaum cai rau impress ib tug neeg hlub ib tug, phooj ywg los yog tus yeeb ncuab. Cov khoom cua creation ntawm ib tug yooj yim teeb meem no, uas tom qab tau heroically kov yeej, feem ntau zoo li posturing es quenching xwm.

Tsis txhob sim nkag tau rau hauv cov teeb meem, txawm hais tias koj yeej paub tseeb tias yuav yog tus khiav. Nyob rau hauv lub neej thiab tsis muaj txaus sib tw. Saib ib ncig ntawm - thiab tej zaum yuav pom cov neeg uas koj xav tau ib tug muaj zog lub xub pwg.

Sim mus rau qhov hauv qab

Khiav ntawm tempered xwm yeej ib txwm nrhiav qhov tseeb, thiab lub hauv paus ua kom muaj tus essence. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog yog hais tias tus teeb meem no tawm los rau ib tug ob peb cov neeg. Koj twb zaum hnov qhov hais tias uas txhua leej txhua tus muaj lawv tus kheej qhov tseeb, thiab qhov tseeb nyob ib leeg uas yog nws. Hnov lub version ntawm txhua tus ntawm ob tog. Tsis txhob raug ntxias, tsis to taub, los sawv nyob rau sab ntawm cov neeg uas koj hlub thiab qab zib. Yog, tej zaum nws yuav tsis yooj yim, tab sis tsis txhob hais tias tsis muaj dab tsi, hais tias cov teeb meem tempered cim. Tib txoj kev nyob twj ywm hauv lub zoo sab. Tiv thaiv tsis ncaj ncees lawm, koj ua nws ib pliag.

Cov tshuaj ntawm muaj teeb meem nrhiav tau, tsis txhob immersion nyob rau hauv lub chaos ntawm ncus, prejudice, speculation, taug xaiv, nyiam thiab tsis nyiam.

Discard lub fatalism

Qhia rau kuv yuav ua li cas temper cov ua cim, ua nyob rau hauv cov kev ntseeg hais tias txhua yam uas tshwm sim yog predetermined nyob rau hauv ua ntej? Thiab yog vim li cas thab ua hauj lwm rau koj tus kheej, Yog hais tias koj muaj peev xwm sau tawm tej yam nyob rau lub machinations ntawm txoj hmoo?

Ib tug txiv neej nrog ib tug muaj zog cim tsis xav txog lawv tus kheej tsis yog ib tug pessimist tsis ib optimist. Nws tsis yws txog qhov kev tshwm sim, tab sis tsis kaw nyob rau hauv kev ntseeg tias tag nrho cov ntawm nws tus kheej yuav tsim zoo.

Kev ntseeg nyob rau hauv lub zoo yog tsim nyog, tab sis nws yog tsis yooj yim sua rau nws los txi rau hauv lub siab ntawm lub luag hauj lwm rau txhua yam uas tshwm sim. Twb paub lawm hais tias txhua yam nyob rau hauv koj lub neej yog mus txog rau koj: qhov kev tshwm sim yog hais tias txoj kev raws li ib tug tshwm sim ntawm tej yam koj ua (los yog, conversely, inaction).

Ua tsaug koj muaj dab tsi

Feem ntau peb hnov: "Zoo, qhov uas peb tsis muaj," Yuav hais li ntawd muaj zog, muaj zog-willed neeg? Qhov twg koj yuav paub tias dab tsi yog tshwm sim qhov chaw deb deb? Mam li nco dheev, muaj nyob rau hauv cov neeg tib yam kev xav?

Yog hais tias koj txiav txim siab mus coj txoj kev ntawm yus tus kheej-kev txhim kho thiab xav kawm li cas mus temper cov ua cim, kawm los yeej tsis qhia rau leej twg tsis tau envy. Nco ntsoov uas yog lub luag hauj lwm rau tag nrho cov txheej xwm nyob rau hauv koj lub neej? Txhua yam yog nyob rau hauv koj txhais tes! Mloog zoo rau dab tsi koj yuav tsum tau ua rau kawm tau ntawv zoo, es tsis longing rau luv khoom.

Nco resolute

Ib tug ntawm lub ntsiab yam tshwm sim ntawm tsis muaj zog-willed neeg - lub cev tsis hais tsis muaj. Yog hais tias koj muaj teeb meem nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav muab tau tej yam uas koj tsis tu, txwv koj tus kheej rau kev sib txuas lus nrog tsis kaj siab neeg, qhov no, dhau lawm, yuav tsum tau nyob. Tsis txhob cia leej twg rub koj nyob rau hauv lub rov qab ntawm dab tsi koj lub siab protested.

Psychologists ntseeg tau hais tias lub sij hawm no tsuas zoo li tsis tseem ceeb txaus. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, tsis yog li ntawd ib qho yooj yim los mus kawm rau muab. Cia koj tsis chim hais tias tsis yog txhua yam yuav tig tawm txoj cai.

Muaj peev xwm mus hais tias yog li tseem ceeb heev. Embark rau ib tug taug, uas tau ntev ua npau suav ntawm. Nug, thaum kawg, kom thiab nyiaj. Txiav txim siab nyob rau hauv ib tug loj kev sib tham nrog lwm tus neeg.

Nyuab? Heev. Tab sis koj muaj peev xwm pib nrog qhov nyuaj - kawm yuav tsis ncaj ncees rau koj tus kheej. Nco ntsoov tias, tsis muaj txoj kev pheej hmoo, koj yuav tsis txaus siab rau txoj kev kaj siab uas yeej!

Yuav xav nyob rau hauv qhov kev xav ntawm lwm tus neeg, tiam sis tsis txhob xa mus rau lawv

Neeg twg uas cav hais tias yog tsis xav nyob rau hauv ib tug neeg lub tswv yim, kev lom zem ntau disingenuous. Nyob rau hauv hnub no lub ntiaj teb no nws tsuas yog tsis yooj yim sua mus nyob rau hauv kev rho tawm los ntawm zej zog. Tab sis ib tug neeg uas muaj ib tug cim muaj zog yuav tsum tau cais cov nplej los ntawm cov npluag.

Thaum txiav txim siab, koj yuav tsum xav txog tej yam dab tsi lub txim yuav yog koj txhua txav. Yog ib tug neeg li koj cov lus tsis raug mob? Yuav tsis cuam tshuam seb ib tug neeg txoj hmoo tau ua lawm?

Nyob rau hauv nrug muaj feem luj li no, sim mus yuav lub hom phiaj. Rejects tus npau suav xwb vim hais tias ntawm qhov tseeb hais tias ib tug neeg los ntawm outsiders yuav tsis nyiam nws, nws yog dag. Lwm yam tib neeg lub prejudices yuav tsum tsis txhob cuam tshuam mus cuag lub hom phiaj. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, yog tias koj ntseeg tau hais tias ua qhov zoo tshaj plaws.

Yog tus teb cov hwm no: tsis kom lawv yuav nyob rau hauv lwm tus neeg.

Kawm kom ua zoo

Muaj tseeb txhua leej niam leej txiv xav tias hais txog yuav ua li cas temper lub cim ntawm tus me nyuam. Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no, muaj yog tsis muaj zoo dua txoj kev tshaj tus kheej tus piv txwv. Pua pua ntawm koj cov lus qhia thiab feem ntau mus cov lus qhuab qhia nyob rau hauv vain, yog hais tias tus tub los yog tus ntxhais, koj yuav poob ntsej muag cov uas qaug zog thiab qhia indifference rau cov disadvantaged.

Nws yuav zoo li uas lub siab zoo tsis muaj dab tsi ua nrog lub dag lub zog ntawm cov ua cim. Tab sis cia li xav txog tej yam dab tsi ob lub qhov muag saib peb cov me nyuam thaum peb pab thiab txuag!

Tus me nyuam uas yog coj los ntawm ib tug niam txiv-kws lijchoj, niam txiv pab yog ntseeg hais tias zoo - nws yog ib tug manifestation ntawm no lub dag lub zog ntawm cov ua cim.

Kawm kom empathize

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb tsis tau tsuas yog yuav ua li cas temper lub cim, tab sis kuj yuav ua li cas cawm nyob rau tib lub sij hawm ib tug zoo lub plawv. Muaj peev xwm txaus siab rau lwm tus neeg lub yeej, ironically qhia ib tug neeg rau lwm tus ntshai, yug nyob rau hauv lub sij hawm ntawm kev ris nra hnyav - cov cim qhia ntawm ib tug tiag tiag muaj zog cwm pwm. Strangling ib tug khib thiab gloating, tau tshem ntawm cov vile passions xam qhovkev tsuas weaklings!

Ua hauj lwm rau koj tej kev ntshai

Tsis muaj zem lawv hais tias nws tsis yog ntshai ntawm dab tsi - nws yog kev vwm, tiam sis tsis ua siab loj, tab sis ntshai, tab sis yuav ua li cas - nws yog ib tug tiag tiag, yeej muaj tseeb lub siab tawv. Tshab plaws kom tshem tau ntawm kev ntshai yog tsis yooj yim sua, vim hais tias lawv yog muab los ntawm qhov nws tus kheej. Ntshai - yog ib tug zoo kws muaj txuj ci mechanism, uas yog tsim los tsav mus los ntawm cov neeg txaus ntshai teeb meem. Yog li ntawd, tsis txhob muab tso rau ib lub hom phiaj uas yuav tau tshem ntawm kev ntshai, zoo kawm ua neej nyob nrog lawv.

Cov kev xav ntawm kev ntshai - nws yog ib txwm ib tug kev sib tw. txheej xwm tempers cim koos peb txhua tus. Tsis txhob tsis txhob lawv tsis muaj qhov yuav tsum tau rau - kawm los mus kov yeej txhua lub sij hawm kev tswj lawv txoj kev xav. Txhua me me yeej lawm nws ntshai tawv koj tus ua cim thiab muab tsim nyog ua rau kev txaus siab.

Them tribute rau cov kev ua si nawv

Tham txog yuav ua li cas temper cov ua cim ntawm tus txiv neej ntau ib zaug hais txog kev qoj ib ce. Tab sis ua si nawv yog ib qho tseem ceeb kuj rau cov poj niam.

Qhov no yog tshwj xeeb yog tseem ceeb qhov teeb meem rau cov neeg uas tsis nyiam mus dai tawm ntawm qhov bar los yog nqa tes taw hnyav li. Xav txog cov kev xaiv uas, saib rau tej yam uas yuav ua tau rau koj los. Tej zaum koj yuav xaiv - nws tsis yog gym thiab kev nyab xeeb, thiab motocross los yog caij?

Kev ua si nawv txig tempers lub cev thiab cov xwm. Nco ntsoov hais tias cov chav kawm yuav tsum tau tsis tu ncua, tab sis yog vim li cas mus hla ib ce muaj zog yuav suav hais tias tshwj tsis yog tias tus kab mob no. Muaj zog-willed neeg tsuas yuav tsis yog txhais tau ib tug idler thiab ib tug bumpkin.

Tsis txhob ntshai ntawm zoo lus

Yuav muaj lub zog txiv neej hais tias, "Kuv thov txim", "Kuv yog tus txhaum" "Kuv yog tsis ncaj ncees lawm", "Kuv yog tsis ncaj ncees lawm"? Yog no ib tug kos npe rau ntawm tsis muaj zog rau koj tsis yog nws?

Nco ntsoov: tus txhob txwm ua lwj ua liam, rigidity, hardness - yog tsis yog ib tug kos npe rau ntawm lub dag lub zog. Feem ntau cov feem ntau nws yog ib tug daim npog qhov ncauj qab uas hides cov tsis muaj zog ntawm ceg.

Psychologists hais tias hais cov lus no yog ntau yam ntxiv nyuaj tshaj qhov ncaws tawm ntawm lub ntws ntawm reproaches thiab accusations. Lees yuam kev nkaus xwb los ntawm lub feem ntau haib neeg nyob rau hauv ntsuj plig. Txawj hais lus hlub txog lawv txoj kev xav, tsis txhob ntshai mus lees txim nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm lawv (tom qab tag nrho, peb tsis yog tsis muaj kev txhaum). Tsis txhob tos kom nws, tsis txhob skimp on lub siab cov lus zoo.