Manipulations nyob rau hauv kev sib txuas lus

Manipulation nyob rau hauv kev sib txuas lus tshwm sim tas li, thiab txawm tus tsis zoo connotation xam qhovkev nyob rau hauv no txoj kev, yog tsis ib txwm phem. Nyob rau hauv no tsab xov xwm peb saib cov feem ntau raug cov piv txwv ntawm manipulation nyob rau hauv kev sib txuas lus ntawm cov txheeb ze, nyob rau hauv tus me nyuam-niam txiv kev sib raug zoo thiab nyob rau hauv ua lag ua luam kev sib txuas lus.

Manipulation yog hu ua ib tug tej yam nyob rau hauv cov kev sib txuas khub nyob rau hauv kev txiav txim mus cuag tej yam los ntawm nws. Thiab qhov no cov nyhuv yog tas muab zais, thaum ib tug neeg hais txog, xav ntau. Manipulations nyob rau hauv kev sib txuas lus tsis tu ncua siv tsis tau tsuas yog rau cov neeg ntawm txhua qib kev lag luam tawm rau profit. Consciously los yog tsis, sawv daws siv ib tug los yog lwm kab lus kom ib tug neeg hlub ib tug / hu nws txhaum / quab yuam yuav pom zoo nrog koj tus khub. Koj puas xav hais tias xws li kev ua si saum toj no koj lub meej mom, thiab hais tias koj, raws li ib tug ntse neeg, tsis muab nyob rau hauv rau cov tricks? Nco ntsoov, yog koj hnov / siv xws li cov nqe lus puas tau: "Tsuas yog koj to taub kuv", "Koj tsis hlub kuv ntawm tag nrho cov!", "Yog hais tias koj mus, kuv ...." Arsenal yog inexhaustible. Tiam sis ntau tshaj feem ntau manipulated nyob rau hauv kev zoo li tsis ominous thiab caum me lub hom phaj. Tsis muaj ib tug yuav ua mob rau banal "Tsis muaj leej twg ua ib tug qab tshuaj yej!".

Manipulations nyob rau hauv kev sib txuas lus yuav tsum ncav us txog nyob rau hauv lub sij hawm. Rau mus tas li tuav xim Symptoms khoom siv thiab nco txog zoo yaam puab paub, thiab nws kim heev plig, thiab hloov lub luag hauj lwm thiab lub siab ntawm pej xeem morality ...

Cov niam txiv thiab cov me nyuam

Lub ntsiab ntawm manipulation nyob rau hauv lub niam txiv-me nyuam kev sib raug zoo tej zaum yuav tsis raws li cov tshuaj pleev, tab sis peb yog cov yuav mus rau hauv adulthood ib co "hnab nqa taug kev" los ntawm thaum yau, thiab feem ntau tseem siv kawm tau nyob rau hauv ib tsev neeg tsis tau. Manipulation txawm thaum lawv lub hom phiaj - los nyob noj thiab da dej tus me nyuam nyob rau hauv lub sij hawm rau yav tsaus ntuj tsis muaj scandal. Txawm li cas los, muaj tej yam "taboo" rau cov niam txiv uas xav kom loj hlob li kaj siab lug thiab lub lwm tus tib neeg ntiaj teb. Qhov no manipulation ntawm cov kev xav ntawm txoj kev hlub, kev ntshai, kev txhaum thiab nws tus kheej-tsis ntseeg ( "Yog hais tias koj tsis tau ua raws li kuv hais, kuv yuav muab ib tug coj txawv txawv phauj").

ntawm kev ua hauj lwm

Manipulations nyob rau hauv ua lag ua luam kev sib txuas lus yog tseem ntau thiab yog raws li nyob rau hauv tib arsenal. Lawv siv ib tug nkag siab ntawm kev txaus siab, saib iav heev ntawm tus txiv neej; yuav tsum muaj ntaub ntawv thiab tshwj xeeb tactics. Piv txwv li, yog tias tsis quav ntsej li, uas yog ib tug siab tawv disregard. Qhov no tactic yog aimed ntawm kev tsim txoj kev xav ntawm kev ntxhov siab vim, uncertainty nws tus kheej. Nws yuav siv tau motives thiab tactics thaum tsim zoo txug ua lawv paub tab los ntawm lwm tus neeg.

Yuav ua li cas

Yog hais tias koj xav hais tias koj yog manipulated, thiab koj tsis npaj siab yuav mus txuas ntxiv mus rau muab nyob rau hauv, muaj ib tug xov tooj ntawm cov tswv yim raws li los kom tiv thaiv. Saum toj no tag nrho, cia siab rau koj instincts thiab kev. Yog hais tias koj xav tias koj tus khub tsis yog tsis ncaj ncees heev, feem ntau yuav, koj muaj ib tug yog vim li cas rau. Tej zaum nws muab lub ntsej muag kab zauv, hloov cov laus. Thiab yog hais tias koj muaj peev xwm xav txog tej yam uas muaj ob hauv qab ntawm lub thawv rau khaub ncaws, xav txog dab tsi tag nrho. Ib qho tseem ceeb feature ntawm manipulation nyob rau hauv kev sib txuas lus - ib tug thaum motive. Yog hais tias nws yog twb kom meej rau koj, koj yuav cia li cuam tshuam rau koj ib tug siab phem ua si, ua rau nws kom meej rau cov neeg uas twv tau nws intentions. Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv ntawm ib tug nyob ze thiab nyob zoo nws yuav ua tau heev heev thiab fraught nrog rupture ntawm kev sib raug zoo. Koj kuj siv tau los qhia qhov tseeb rau lawv tus kheej lub hom phiaj, tab sis nws kuj yuav tsum tau muaj ib tug txias lub taub hau thiab kuj ua tau ib tug me ntsis ntxias.

Psychologists hais tias cov manipulation yog ib lub cuab tam ntawm kev sib txuas lus, tab sis vim hais tias ntawm lawv tus kheej yog tsis "zoo" los yog "phem." Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb, yuav ua li cas lawv muaj kev cuam tshuam koj lub neej thiab raws li qhov uas koj yuav tiv taus lawv. Cov lus qhia ntxiv muaj nyob rau ntawm tshwj xeeb kev cob qhia, kev kawm, qhov chaw uas kev txawj ntse yog xyaum los tiv thaiv tiv thaiv manipulation. Cov neeg uas yog cia li pib mus kawm txog qhov no loj heev lub ntsiab lus, nws tej zaum yuav hu mus ntsib nrog rau cov chaw ua hauj lwm ntawm Eric Berne, uas hu lub manipulation ntawm "kev ua si". Yog ib tug psychotherapeutic mus kom ze rau qhov teeb meem. Ntawm cov neeg uas cia siab rau cov kev sib raug mus kom ze, ua ntej ntawm tag nrho - lub zos sau phau ntawv AP Egides uas muaj cov ntshiab pom nyob rau hauv lub manipulation thiab txoj kev counter lawv.